Marriage in Builsa culture, like in many parts of Ghana, is more than just a union between a man and a woman. It is a bond between two families, cemented through meaningful customs and rites. One unique feature of Builsa traditional marriage is that there is no fixed bride price.
Unlike in some other ethnic groups, the process is not tied to a rigid list of items or money. Instead, only a few basic items are required — such as cola nuts, akpeteshie, and either a goat or sheep, depending on the bride’s family. Any money or gifts given to parents or siblings are done out of love and according to what the groom can afford, making the entire process less transactional.
Though simple at its core, the Builsa traditional marriage is a step-by-step process unfolds with meaning. Below is how its done.
Builsa Traditional Marriage Stages
Stage One: Dueeni Deka (The Knocking)
In the past, when several young men admired a lady, they would all go to her house to express their intentions. This period, called Dueeni Deka, could last weeks or even months as the young woman took her time to choose among the suitors.
During this stage, the men often tried to win the favor of her brothers, mother, or father by presenting small gifts — a gesture of respect and seriousness.
Today: this stage has largely faded away, as no one openly competes at a lady’s house anymore.
Stage Two: Akaayaali Ali Wa Boro (Formal Acceptance)
At this stage, the lady has already chosen her partner. The groom-to-be, with his family, visits the bride’s home and formally presents items to the family. These include:
- Cola nuts
- Alcohol (akpeteshie)
- Other symbolic items, depending on local customs
This stage officially seals the acceptance of the groom by the bride’s family.
Stage Three: Nansiung Lika (Final Rites)
The Nansiung Lika marks the final stage of the marriage. At this point, the groom presents specific items to the bride’s family, including:
- Cola nuts – peace and unity.
- A hoe – symbolizing hard work and the groom’s ability to provide.
- A hen – fertility and continuity.
- Alcohol – for libation and invoking ancestral blessings.
- Tobacco – often shared among elders.
- A goat or sheep – the central item that seals the rites.
Once the Nansiung is done, it means all the marriage rites have been completed. The bride is officially recognized as a wife, and the union is celebrated.
In some modern situations, a couple may even have a child before they perform the Akaayaali Ali Wa Boro and Nansiung Lika. In such cases, the families return to the tradition after the child’s birth, ensuring the rites are completed properly.
Zangi Bobka (Funeral Obligation)
This is not always considered part of the marriage rites, but it applies when the groom loses his father-in-law or mother-in-law. During the funeral festival, the son-in-law presents a goat or sheep as part of his obligations. Some see this as an extension of the rites, while others treat it separately.
Compilation of the Builsa Traditional Marriage Rites.
Here’s a compilation of a typical Builsa traditional wedding rites. The specific items may vary slightly depending on the family, with some additions or subtractions, but this is generally how it goes. Enter your details below to download a copy of the list.
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Builsa traditional marriage is a beautiful blend of simplicity and meaning. With no fixed bride price and only a few symbolic items required, it emphasizes relationships, family bonds, and love rather than material wealth.
By understanding and honoring these stages, the Builsa people continue to preserve a cultural heritage that celebrates both tradition and the true essence of marriage
